---------------------- multipart/alternative attachment > Quoting Ron Nossaman <rnossaman@cox.net>: > >> >>> The Ron, Del and Ron show?????????? Under the influence???????????? >>> How insulting. Whether I agree with Robin or not, I certainly >>> appreciate the time he and others take to make earnest contributions=20= >>> to >>> the list. This kind of editorializing is unproductive and unneeded. >>> >>> David Love >> >> >> Ah, someone is awake. Thank you David. > > Actually, a number of us are quite wide awake, thank you very much. > > What should be clear from all of the postings on these variously=20 > related > threads is that no one person has all the answers; and, further, that, > collectively we all know more than we can possibly know severally. =20 > Whether > one agrees with what is published to the list is relatively=20 > inconsequential. > What does matter is the exchange of ideas, concepts and experience. > > Horace > _______________________________________________ > pianotech list info: https://www.moypiano.com/resources/#archives > > As an email person, I noticed over the years that on any e-mail forum=20 it is very easy to get into a small or even a big brawl over whatever. E-mailers hardly ever see each other, and e-mailing in general is a=20 very risky business because e-mailers miss eye contact and body=20 language, and a sentence or even just a word may result in a possible=20 un-asked for and un-wanted reaction. Getting agitated, irritated, frustrated and even insulted or hurt,=20 depends on the flammability, character, and personality of an=20 individual. It is very often better to take some time and distance from an e-mail=20 full of 'words', instead of pulling out the guns and knives pronto. We all have our weaknesses, and me, IO in the very first place. I know I may have hurt or insulted people on this list, but I can=20 assure you that for at least 99% it was un-intentionally. If you got=20 hurt by me, please read this last sentence again and please except my=20 sincere apologies right now! If someone has an introvert and shy personality, that person may=20 perhaps never take part in the never ending piano discussion on DA=20 list. That's not bad, that's just how it is, and we have to accept it. That person just reads and thinks about it, or does not think about it=20= at all afterwards. They are called lurkers, so I learned when I tried to understand and=20 improve my English (with the help of a kind and helpful American=20 friend). If you dare to come forward and show at least something of your being,=20= you take part, and you are able to exchange your thoughts. If you have an extrovert personality, you take part of this list maybe=20= every day, and you chat with many, and discuss all kinds of issues all=20= the time. If the latter is the case, it might very well be possible that at least=20= some of the many words you type in will be understood in a wrong way,=20 and unintended. If so, that person will then be corrected. or even get punished=20 immediately, because the other person or persons who felt insulted, or=20= hurt, have a need to retaliate, which is understandable... we're all=20 humans ok? I myself have a so called extrovert or outgoing personality, which=20 means that I am aware of the dangers of "showing up, of showing=20 yourself". What I am actually trying to say here, is that, in order to not let a=20 possible conflict escalate, it is also possible to remain quiet, to say=20= nothing for at least a while, and wait and see how things develop. If you feel the need to correct a co-subscriber, we could take Dale=20 Erwins way of "diplomacy" as a very good example of how to say what you=20= have to say, and at the same time show mercy towards the person who=20 "gets on your nerve". In that case, stabbing and lashing out, is unnecessary and an=20 escalation has been put off and avoided. If you 'weigh' your thoughts, you weigh your words ....... Where 'music' is no harm can be Andr=E9 Oorebeek Amsterdam The Netherlands ---------------------- multipart/alternative attachment A non-text attachment was scrubbed... Name: not available Type: text/enriched Size: 4038 bytes Desc: not available Url : https://www.moypiano.com/ptg/pianotech.php/attachments/f1/ba/aa/89/attachment.bin ---------------------- multipart/alternative attachment--
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