[pianotech] attitudes and such

[William Truitt]

To William and David:

 

I twitch with the best of them.  I even get out the flame thrower, turn it
on high, and sit down and start writing.  But then I save the draft and let
it sit there if I feel I've let somebody have it.  Many a time I have gotten
up the next morning and read what I have saved and go, "Oh my..  Good thing
I didn't send it. "   I then ask myself if how I have expressed myself is
effective at communicating what I want to say and what I hope they will
hear.  Understanding is hard to come by when the flames are leaping around
you.  Expressing your anger can be an effective emotion, but most of the
time it is destructive.  And  the readers of this list do not want to be
feel splattered by the bloodletting as a couple of people go for the jugular
and one-upsmanship.   I do have dirty laundry, but I try to keep it in the
hamper..

 

And if someone's going to be an ass no matter what, who am I to stand in the
way?  I'm all for full disclosure!

 

David and William, I don't know if I have enough money to pay you for your
kind remarks.  It'd empty my bank account.   Granted, there's not much in
there, but still.  Thank you, I am touched.

 

Your non-snarky pal,

 

Will

 

 

From: pianotech-bounces at ptg.org [mailto:pianotech-bounces at ptg.org] On Behalf
Of David Andersen
Sent: Friday, February 12, 2010 3:30 PM
To: pianotech at ptg.org
Subject: Re: [pianotech] attitudes and such

 

OK. Let me clarify. Snarkiness, or sarcasm, or judgement, WILL happen, which
is what Jason is saying. WHEN it happens---inevitably---everybody learns;
it's a gut/reality/community check. My pal Will simply has less fast-twitch
emotional response than a lot of us...and a tremendous amount of hard-won
clarity and wisdom. We would never see it in all its glory without the
occasional snarkified exchange here. We're going for excellence here, Mr.
Monroe, not perfection. Perfection kills. Let it roll.

DA

 

 

On Feb 12, 2010, at 12:04 PM, William Monroe wrote:





I respectfully disagree, Jason.  Snarkiness does no one any good.  It is
short-sighted, self-absorbed, condescending trash and should be left on the
(back) doorstep.  Professional, thoughtful responses are far more beneficial
for both parties.  Dripping sarcasm is one thing (in fun), but the line is
easily crossed into intolerance.  I believe there is always ample
opportunity to practice those other nice character traits you've mentioned,
Jason, (empathy, self-recognition, the courage to speak up, and the humility
to apologize) without the making an Ass of yourself pre-requisite..  ;-]  If
you are searching for a listee to emulate when you formulate a response, of
the many courteous listees, I recommend Will Truitt.  Always considerate,
professional, and empathetic, even when dealing with someone challenging -
and yet, he still gives and receives valuable, non-patronizing information -
it can be done!  Keep it up Will (my hero).  ;- []

Just my non-snarky two cents.
William R. Monroe





On Fri, Feb 12, 2010 at 1:32 PM, Jason Kanter <jkanter at rollingball.com>
wrote:

Personally, I think a little snarkiness is good for us all once in a while.
Both for the snarker and for the snarkee. It provides the occasion to
reflect on opportunities for improvement. It gives us all the opportunity to
practice empathy, self-recognition, the courage to speak up, and the
humility to apologize. 

 

Jason


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